Recently, I've seen and heard a lot about how great it is to have kids. I see women on TV shows say that their life wasn't complete until they have kids. I see posts by friends who gush about their kids and all their accomplishments. People tell me that I will miss having kids when I get old. The truth is, I might. There was a time when I wanted kids, but I was much younger then. Now, I just see them as a ball and chain, and I'll tell you why.
I am an only child. I think that made me a selfish person. When I was growing up, I never had to share with brothers or sisters and had free reign to do what I wanted when my parents were away without anyone around to tell on me. Well, selfishness is a hard trait to get rid of, and I think that is the number one reason I don't want kids now. I am 41 and my wife is 44. We both are only children and only have our mothers left, who are very old and wouldn't be able to keep up with handling a kid if we went away.
I'll grant you, there are many people in our neighborhood with kids. For a while there, it was like a breeding colony. Kids were popping up all over. I'm sure that if we had kids, they would have been happy to take care of them for a time. Now, I can't hang out with them because all they want to talk about is their kids, and frankly, I can't take it.
To some of you, that may sound pretty bad, but I love my life now. I love being able to watch what I want on TV with my wife, to take a nap without having to worry if the kid is asleep, to jump in the car at a moments notice without worrying if we have the kids things and to vacation with my wife where and when we want.
Thankfully, my wife feels the way I do. She doesn't have that "itch" that so many women say they feel about having kids. In fact, when we were dating, I knew she didn't want kids. I actually had her thinking about it for a time until I changed my mind. I think she was relieved. Maybe in a few years, if we feel any regret, we will adopt. There are plenty of kids out there that need good homes.
So what are your thoughts? Am I a bad, selfish person?